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This holiday season is going to be quite lonely for many. With new lockdown orders, and in some areas curfews, many aren’t comfortable traveling or attending social gatherings. I have seen a number of posts and comments by friends and friends of friends about spending the holidays alone, which can be quite depressing.

We’ve already seen an increase in anxiety, depression, loneliness and isolation since the COVID-19 pandemic began. Suicide rates have also been on the rise. Cook County, Illinois and Fresno, California are just two major cities who have reported and increase in suicides this year with a 13% in Cook County so far compared with the same period last year. In Fresno, suicides were 70% higher in June than in the same month last year. …


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A friend of mine had to get a new car. His lease was up. He had bad credit and was self-employed with little to show for a regular income. His dad had agreed to be a co-signer on the lease for the first car, but he wasn’t going to do it again. When I asked my friend: “How’s it going with finding a new car?” He said he was terrified, nervous, overwhelmed, and freaked about the whole process of trying to buy a new car. I could understand his concern, but was there really the need for such internal melodrama?

We as humans have the tendency to make giant mountains out of little molehills. We look at life’s challenges as “problems” and live in them rather than living in the solution. We put so much focus on this alleged problem with tunnel vision, that we can’t see the solution, nor can we take a step back and be grateful for all of the good in our lives. …


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“There is a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.” -Madeleine Albright

I did a post the other day in one of the many Facebook groups, which is dedicated to female entrepreneurs about being nominated for a Women in Business Award. As someone who never graduated from college and grew up in a small town in Georgia with blue collar parents, I was rather pleased with and grateful for the recognition. I was also happy that I was nominated for my work in the nonprofit space, which often doesn’t get recognized as an actual business endeavor.

For the most part, the women in the group were graciously supportive and congratulatory. …


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Now that the election is (technically) over, I think it’s time for a mental reset, don’t you?

2020 has been the tornado that landed us all in Oz. I don’t think there’s been a more chaotic year in modern history, which included a global pandemic, riots, and one of the most important elections in the world- all within an 8 month time-frame. It’s no wonder we’re a bit frazzled.

So many have suffered on so many different levels- physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, and personally. Our businesses and jobs have suffered. Our relationships have suffered. Our kids have suffered. …


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Ever have one of those woke-up-on-the-wrong-side-of-the- bed mornings where you just can get into anything? You don’t want to shower, think, or function. You especially don’t want to work! The last thing on earth you want to do is sit on a series of Zoom calls all day. So, you decide to take the day off. However, in the meantime, you have a major case of the guilties because you know you should be doing a bunch of stuff today. You can’t not be productive. …


At least not completely

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Let go of the past. Live in the present. Don’t worry about the future is an adage that we personal and spiritual growth coaches like to use as a developmental benchmark.

Easier said than done, right? Letting go of our past is probably one of the most difficult things to do. We lived those experiences. They are ingrained in our memories. We can’t make them go away or un-happen. Shit happened, so what are we going to do about it?

While I totally agree with the importance of letting go of certain emotional aspects of your past, there are good reasons why you shouldn’t completely let it go. …


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The idea of this story hit me when I wasn’t feeling so loved. I am pretty good at getting myself out of a funk. I’ve been practicing all I’ve learned from some of the greatest spiritual teachers on the planet. Nevertheless, I still have my moments. It was during one of those moments where I desperately needed that little nudge of I love you. Not surprising, that nudge came from none else than one of my dogs, Kramer — a 120lb American Bulldog.

Now, Kramer is not Mr. Affectionate. He could take it or leave it. When I hug him, he pulls away like an I’m the creepy uncle whose clothes smell like they were left in the washer for too long. He hates photos. He’s almost like a cat with a F*ck off! …


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They say our pets are like family. I say, they’re not “like” family; they are family, and when you lose one, it’s a like a part of your heart and soul gets ripped out and taken with them.

As the co-founder of a nonprofit animal rescue, I’ve seen my fair share of pet loss. It is absolutely devastating on so many levels. I have coached many friends, family members, and colleagues through the end of life stages of their pets.

I always get the “when will I know it’s time” question when someone is dealing with a senior pet who’s health is on a serious or rapid decline. The only answer I can ever give is “you’ll know when.” Other than the physical signs of suffering, pets have an uncanny ability of letting us know when they’re ready to go. Sometimes, they’ll go on their own terms. …


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“The Four Agreements” by don Miguel Ruiz is probably one of my all-time favorite transformational tomes. It reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, ‘The Four Agreements’ offers a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.

Having sold almost 10 million copies in the U.S. alone, this book has definitely had an impact on the millions of readers who are either dabbling in self-improvement, or they’re already experts at it.

“Don Miguel Ruiz’s book is a roadmap to enlightenment and freedom.” …


And how to establish the habit of having one

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Mornings can be challenging for many people, present party included. I was a “don’t-poke-the-bear-before-my-first-cup-of-coffee” kind of gal. In my defense, I tend to be more of a night owl. I do most of my writing at night when it’s quiet, and the cacophony of various communication alerts die down. I was always jealous of those who zestfully sprang out of bed at 5am ready to take on the day while I hit the snooze button 17 times.

This did nothing but leave me feeling tired, unfocused, unproductive, and just blah for the rest of the day. It would end with a bottle of wine and feeling like I didn’t accomplish anything. I knew something needed to change. …

About

Kelly Lee Reeves

Writer & NLP Certified Coach. I teach people how to realize their greatest potential and use their gifts to make a difference in the world. I also save animals.

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