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How to Get Out of Your Own Way

Kelly Reeves
5 min readAug 19, 2020

What Causes Self-Sabotaging Behaviors and How You Can Rise Above Them

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“It’s no surprise to me I am my own worst enemy…” — Lit

Do you tend to procrastinate on achieving your goals, or lack the commitment to reach them?

Or, maybe you are in a relationship where you’re feeling insecure so you end up creating a bunch of unnecessary drama, which only ends up creating a bigger rift or the relationship to end all together?

Or, do you spend money as soon as you have it? Do you wake up with every good intention to get stuff done, but go to bed feeling like you didn’t accomplish anything?

Self-sabotaging behavior, habits, and thoughts not only cause stress and frustration; they keep you from achieving your goals in life. They are like self-fulling prophesies: You believe in a negative outcome, so you create it.

But where do these behaviors and habits come from? Most of them come from an accumulation of dysfunctional and distorted fear-based beliefs, which leads to feelings of being incapable, unworthy, unaccepted, or undervalued.

There are different types of self-sabotage. The most common are:

  • Procrastination: You know you need to do it, but you don’t because you are afraid of failing, or afraid it will take too much time…

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Kelly Reeves
Kelly Reeves

Written by Kelly Reeves

I write about self-defense, cybersecurity, marketing, entrepreneurship, human stuff, and the occasional dog post.

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