Do you find yourself frequently using the word ‘but’?
“I would like to ______, BUT…” Or “I need to ______, BUT… I don’t have enough money/time/resources/know-how/ a degree/education/ connections…”
Or, maybe you point the finger and blame others for your failures and defeats. I get it. It’s easy to attribute your discontent to someone else and their actions or decisions rather than take ownership and accountability for your own lack of success.
The excuses you attach to your failures and shortcomings don’t really matter. We all get the same amount of hours in a day. Everyone is busy. We all have work and struggles and families and emergencies and life and imperfections.
If you’re allowing your life be ruled by “buts”, complaining, and blaming everyone else, then it’s no wonder why you’re not getting very far.
You are arguing for, if not completely defending your limitations. When negative thoughts gain a foothold and momentum, you begin to believe them.
And they’re BS. You are essentially allowing your life to be ruled by the fake news in your head rather than taking control of your negative thoughts and limiting beliefs and turning them into productive and positive action.
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.” — Henry Ford
Sir Richard Branson had dyslexia. Did that stop him from starting a magazine and eventually becoming a business magnate?
Oprah Winfrey grew up in poverty. Did that stop her from becoming a billionaire?
Neither Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, nor Mark Zuckerberg graduated from college. Did that stop them from building their respective tech empires?
No one is expecting you to be ‘happy happy joy joy’ 24/7. Obstacles are out there. Shit happens. We’ve all been there, but success doesn’t come from giving up and making excuses.
“If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.” — Jim Rohn
Hardships are meant to be overcome. What defines one’s success is how they get past the obstacles and roadblocks. It builds character, resilience, and perseverance.
Say you’re driving down a road, and there’s a big tree blocking your path. Are you going to defend the tree for being there, blame the tree, its branches or the soil, and start make excuses for your inability to move forward because of it? Or, are you going to find a way to remove it, go around it, or perhaps take a different route?
No venture worth taking is easy. That is what makes it all worth it. It’s part of the learning and growth process of life. As soon as you stop allowing your failures, shortcomings, or limitations to determine your outcomes, you will see a whole new world of opportunities open up for you.
“There is no failure except in no longer trying.” — Elbert Hubbard
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