… are equal — and equally able to change their lives — does not create a world in which that’s true. Instead, it ignores very real systems of oppression and denies the victims of those systems any validation and empathy. Spiritual and self-development leaders who focus only on individual responsibility do so because it…
Lee McKay Doe
I wrote about a similar topic recently, and have to strongly disagree with you. As long as people allow themselves to be victims and others pander to a mindset of victim-hood, then voila! You have your victim-those who continue to believe they have no way out and that they’re always being held down.
It’s about getting a hand up and not a hand out. Your point only stands to perpetuate the hand out mentality rather than empower people to pull themselves up by their bootstraps regardless of their circumstances. Do some have it easier than others in life? Sure. But, does that mean those who don’t have it easier are ‘victims’, or is it an excuse for their own short comings and failures? In some cases yes, some no… I grew up poor. I had to fight my way in a man’s corporate world and in a male dominated industry (tech). Did I whine about being a woman and getting paid less than my male counter parts? Nope. I started my own company and made my own rules. It is 100% about self responsibility and accountability. As soon as people stop pointing their fingers and blaming at others for their misfortune and discontent, which only creates a culture of bitterness, resentment, and anger, and they start look at themselves and their own choices and actions- that’s when real change can happen in one’s life.
I do agree with the point about being happy and positive all the time. That’s impossible. We are human. We have feelings. They’re not always going to be joyful. As soon as we stop fighting against this need to be in a constant state of bliss in an effort to manifest some miracle, and allow ourselves to feel what we feel, then we will actually feel better about it. We give it space to breathe and be.
I personally try to make friends with my anger, see where it’s coming from, gain a better perspective on it. When I do this, I realize that I am a lot less angry than I thought I was and eventually come to the conclusion that the thing at which I was so angry really isn’t that big of a deal. And, this is coming from someone who’s battled with significant anger issues her entire life.
All in all, great article. Just don’t encourage people to be victims of their circumstance. Rather, empower them to be masters of it. :)