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Why We Create Problems
And how to live in the solution
A friend of mine had to get a new car. His lease was up. He had bad credit and was self-employed with little to show for a regular income. His dad had agreed to be a co-signer on the lease for the first car, but he wasn’t going to do it again. When I asked my friend: “How’s it going with finding a new car?” He said he was terrified, nervous, overwhelmed, and freaked about the whole process of trying to buy a new car. I could understand his concern, but was there really the need for such internal melodrama?
We as humans have the tendency to make giant mountains out of little molehills. We look at life’s challenges as “problems” and live in them rather than living in the solution. We put so much focus on this alleged problem with tunnel vision, that we can’t see the solution, nor can we take a step back and be grateful for all of the good in our lives. It becomes the only thing that exists.
By why is this so? Why can’t we just “be happy” and know that things always have a funny way of working themselves out? Because our brains aren’t built that way. Our brains are built for survival. In its constant effort to protect us from the unknown, it inadvertently causes us to remain focused on the thing it perceives as harming us. It’s like a gazelle being chased by a lion. Its mind is 100% focused on getting…
